Surrender

Sometimes when we surrender and not push ourselves to make any decisions our stress slowly eases off and we are able to enter a space of better clarity.  Woke up this morning feeling drained and in the midst’s of dealing with a very uncomfortable situation. A situation that needed action. With my brain a bit foggy and full of exhaustion I turned off my cell phone, took a nap, a shower, a brief walk outside to absorb the day’s sun and meditated a moment.  I didn’t ignore it I just put it on hold until I was ready to jump into it. And just like that I took a deep breath after much contemplation I felt the clarity I needed to make my decision. No one else can make decisions for us. People can give us their advice and their opinions but ultimately it is us who must live with the consequences of our decisions. 

I have learned to surrender and tap into how I am feeling.  And if I don’t feel it, I don’t do it.   My favorite saying “I’m not feeling it.”  That stands if I am having a handyman hang a few paintings and I don’t feel the position of the art is in the right place.  Or it stands true if I get invited somewhere that I am too exhausted to go.  Simply if you don’t feel good about a choice, or a decision to do something, you’re not ready to do it or it’s simply not for you. Listening to that internal intuition is key. No one can force you to decide. An important decision cannot be put on hold forever. Give yourself a deadline and work through all the potential outcomes of a decision so that you are not blind-sided. It’s all in the knowing, the awareness and taking action with a well-executed plan.

Surrender in life means letting go of the need for control, allowing things to unfold as they are meant to, rather than forcing them to go a certain way. It’s not about giving up or accepting defeat, but rather accepting that there are circumstances beyond our influence. In many ways, surrender is about trust — trusting that life has its own flow and rhythm, and sometimes, the best way forward is to stop resisting it.

Surrendering also requires humility and vulnerability. It involves acknowledging our limits and being open to learning from whatever life presents, even if it's challenging or unexpected. By doing so, we open ourselves to new possibilities and insights that we might have missed while trying to tightly manage outcomes.

In a deeper sense, surrender is about inner peace. It allows us to move through life with more grace, less stress, and greater freedom. Rather than being consumed by the fear of uncertainty or failure, surrender gives us the courage to embrace the unknown and trust that we will be okay, no matter the outcome.

The Art of Surrender is not always easy and can feel like a tug of war, however, embracing the flow of life and accepting change with an open heart can change the essence of your life.

 "Surrender is the simple but profound wisdom of yielding to rather than opposing the flow of life." Eckhart Tolle

Your coach and inspirational speaker, Sara Rubalcava.